I
was 35 years old and VERY surprised to discover myself pregnant again. The
youngest of the five kids my husband Tom and I already had was in kindergarten.
The two oldest boys were in high school.
I
had had three of the most horrible hospital births I can imagine, including an
unnecessary but legally required transport during an attempted homebirth. (The
law required the midwife to transport after 24 hours of ruptured waters, if the
birth was not imminent).
Two
of my births had been wonderful, peaceful homebirths....my third child and my
fifth. We had a wonderful midwife at the birth of the third, but Tom and I
delivered the fifth baby at home unassisted.
When
I found myself pregnant the sixth time, I knew there was NO WAY I was going to
give birth in the hospital. I realised I might have to go if we encountered an
emergency, but barring a bona-fide life-threatening emergency, I planned to
give birth at home. From my first pregnancy I had studied everything I could
get my hands on relating to pregnancy and childbirth. My first midwife was an
accomplished teacher. She wanted Tom and I to know how to recognize an
emergency, and to be prepared to deliver our baby if she did not make it to the
birth. I continued to study and prepare, and to refresh my studies when I
learned I was pregnant again.
By
the end of my second month of pregnancy, I was convinced I was having twins. I
was eating properly, monitoring my blood pressure, weight, and urine, and
taking my vitamins. (I was taking care of myself and the baby - i.e...getting true
prenatal care!) Still, I was gaining fundus size at an excessive rate, and from
time to time could see my abdomen "divide" into two separate spheres.
As
the pregnancy advanced, I got bigger and bigger! By six months, I appeared to
be 'due any day' to strangers. I prepared my birth kit, lined up 'assistants'
to come and be with us for the births. We discovered from the birth of the
fifth child that it is helpful to have an extra set of hands! None of our
assistants had ever been to a birth, other than their own children's.
During
the last week of the pregnancy (the 36th week), I was so huge that every breath
brought new stretch marks. Joking with Tom, I said bring me a pocketknife, I
was letting these babies out of there!
June
17, 1996 was the first day of our local church's Vacation Bible School. My
three younger kids caught the church van at about 8:30 that morning. The two
older boys had done their chores, and were reading in their room. Tom made sure
I was never left alone during the last two months of the pregnancy. I was
feeling "funny" - not like the contractions, back ache, or indigestion I had
experienced with former pregnancies at the onset of labor - just really
'different' than I had been feeling. I had SOOO much energy that morning, I was
considering scrubbing the soot off the fireplace bricks! The "funny/strange"
feelings began to make me wonder if I was in labor. I called Tom at work and
asked him to come home. That was a little after 9:00 am. It is a half hour
drive home. He arrived a few minutes after 9:30, and about ten minutes later my
water broke. This was "IT"!
I
called my assistants. One was stuck at home, her car in the shop, and her
husband out in the other car. The phone number for the second assistant was
"temporarily under repair, please try your call later." The third assistant,
Denise, had gone to the tailor's shop with her daughters, her husband said. He
called the shop, and alerted her. Denise left the girls there for him to pick
up, and made the 20 minute drive to my house in 10 minutes!
I
was continuing to have small gushes of water with every contraction. Since we
chose not to do internal exams to avoid introducing bacteria, I wondered if the
baby's head was not engaged. Labor seemed to be going very quickly into
transition and the pushing stage. I was not deliberatley "pushing" as I wanted
to be certain I was fully dilated first. When the baby starts down, you can
certainly tell!
As
Daniel descended the birth canal, it felt very different than any of my other
births. I was aware it was not the feeling of a bony skull making its way out.
I told Tom and Denise, something doesn't feel right! Seconds later, as I
continued to deliberately push, we discovered we were having a boy. That was
the very first thing we knew about Daniel! His butt and male organs slid out,
and he unfolded. Tom checked for the cord around the neck, found it clear, and
I pushed the baby's head out. He looked at everyone, and smiled! It was
awesome! Denise wrapped him in a warmed towel, and Tom clamped and cut his
cord. Tom unwrapped and weighed him, and wrote down the birth time - 11:35 am.
He was 6lbs. 14 oz. His apgar was 9.
Denise
went and told the two older boys, who were reading in their bedroom, that they
had a new brother. Tom was cleaning Daniel up, and I even tried to get him to
nurse, but he was too interested in everything around him.
I
was anxious to see my other baby and was barking orders like a general! Daniel
was wrapped snugly up, and Denise held him. I wasn't feeling any body signals
(contractions) to push, but my spirit was telling me to push the baby out. I
told Tom I was feeling in my spirit to push. So I did. The second bag of waters
broke like a cannon shot, splashing water all the way across the room. I
pushed, and I could feel this baby was also not descending head first. I only
quit pushing long enough to draw in fresh breaths. For the first time in any
labor, I screamed as I felt the baby coming down. It felt like something was
tearing loose inside.
The
baby presented exactly as his brother had, butt and boy parts first. As his
feet cleared, and he unfolded, Tom checked for the cord around the neck, then I
pushed the second boy out completely. The placenta slid out right on top of the
baby. It had already detached! The baby was limp and blue. Tom and Denise
checked for a heartbeat. He was alive. They began to suction his nose and
mouth, and I said to "rough him up" with the towel. Baby didn't like that one
bit, and gave us a lusty cry! We hadn't firmly decided on a second boy's name
at that point. His first apgar was a two! Five minutes later, he was up to an
eight.
The
placenta was one piece, with two umbilicus attached. Our small experience
doesn't extend to whether it was two placentas fused together, or simply one
placenta. The boys are for all intents, identical. The only way to be 100%
certain is to do a genetic comparison, which we have NOT had done. Baby #2
looked at me as I was talking to him. I said "Hi, Sam!" just out of my head.
Tom said "SAM!" and liked it, so Baby #2 was named Samuel.
Sam
weighed 7lbs. 2oz.. We're not sure exactly what time he was born, as no one
thought to look at the clock, with the small crisis that went on. When we
thought to look, it was 12:05, thirty minutes after Daniel's birth.
The
kids arrived home from vacation Bible school a little while later. Everyone was
amazed at how short the labor was. I had been bleeding enough that I was
getting very lightheaded. I kept the twins nursing, and kept massaging my
uterus to keep it contracting and tight. In hindsight, I probably should have
gone into the hospital to be checked at that point for tears. But I didn't. I
stayed in bed the rest of the day, except to go to the bathroom. I drank
copious amounts of Gatorade.
That
night, I called my sister to let her know about the births. She totally freaked
out, and was not assured that everyone was fine. She lived 500 miles from me,
so she called the local sheriff's department, and asked the sheriff to come out
and force me to go to the hospital! He called me, and I assured him that it was
NOT necessary to go to the hospital.
The
next morning, the sheriff and two child welfare social workers showed up on my
doorstep! I had to show them the twins, and walk around and demonstrate I was
NOT in need of transport to the hospital! We all three passed our "once over"
exams, and the sheriff saw no need to make me go to the hospital. I was pretty
upset with my sister!!!!
The
twins are both doing quite well in every way. They are now eleven years
old. They are little wiz's at the computer; starting to read; normal little
boys.
I
am personally convinced that a doctor would never have let me attempt a vaginal
delivery upon discovering that BOTH of the twins were breech, and fairly large
babies (for twins). Their birth was really the fastest of all my labors, and in
spite of the bleeding afterwards, I don't believe the birth would have been any
"better" had I gone to a hospital.